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25 Jun

My son celebrated his birthday last weekend which brings to an end our birthday season….And it got me thinking.


In the past..I never understood why some adults made such a big deal out of birthdays, their own, and even to people they barely knew. It’s not like that birthday person did anything especially heroic to be born (wasn’t even their choice) or has solved any of the world’s big problems (cure for cancer, world peace)

And then, (as always), my thoughts started to wander about the whole cosmic birthday thing…

I thought…Why do some people love their birthdays and others would rather take that day off the calendar?

Are birthdays all about age? Are we just checking off one more year from the living calendar?

Are birthdays the annual (anniversary) reminder of happy and/or sad yesteryears?

Maybe for some, birthdays are filled with unattainable expectations of birthday grangers? Trying to fill a bottomless childhood emotion?


…Is it something different?


…Is it supposed  to be something different?

As I get older I hear my sweet, brilliant and beautiful mother’s words play over in my head, she would say, “There is more to old age than gray hair and wrinkles.”


Once again this post provides me yet another opportunity to say, Mom I love you and you are correct, as always XXOO!

…As I run, jump and skip through life’s birthdays, I’ve discovered, birthdays are not a time to take stock in life’s happy milestones or sad failures (that’s for the day after) but  a time to celebrate relationships (we are all connected). And age (birthdays) gives us the opportunity to know this!

I’ve discovered…

…It’s not about being center of attention or about the gifts!…Though I do L O V E the Godiva Chocolates my sister gives me every year :)!

BUT instead,

Birthdays are an opportunity to connect and reconnect with family, friends and yes even with strangers…It’s a day of opportunities, to go out of your way to pepper even more kindness into the world, to bring people together and to celebrate love, friendships and hopeful new beginnings, regardless of age!

God gives us a gift every year, it’s called a birthday…

…Humbly and filled with gratitude, I thank you God, for gracing my son and daughters this year with your generous and precious gift of another birthday!






God’s Grocery Store!

29 May



God’s Grocery Store

As I walked down life’s highway,
I came upon a sign that read God’s Grocery Store as its name.
When I got a little closer, the doors swung open wide, and when I came to myself, I was standing inside.
I saw each of the disciples. They were all standing there. One handed me a basket,
And said, ‘My child shop with care.’
Everything a person needed was in that grocery store, and what you could not carry, you could come back for more.
First I got some PATIENCE.
HEART was in that same row. Further down was CONFIDENCE; you need that everywhere you go.
I go a heap of POWER and FAITH in me and you, and GAME SENSE was a must, I would need lots of that too.
I couldn’t miss the PASSION, for it was all over the place.
And then some STRENGTH to pull me through, and COURAGE to help me run this race.
My basket was getting full but I remembered I needed TRUST, and then I chose COMMUNICATION, for that’s important to us.
My arms were getting tired now but I couldn’t forget LOYALTY.
In order to get me past all this, I knew I could rely on UNITY.
I gathered up some SPEED, and then I found that INNER FIGHT.
I almost missed PRIDE and HONOR, but I saw them just to the right.
Then I started to the counter, to pay my grocery bill. For I thought I had everything I’d need to carry out my greatest WILL.
As I went up the aisle, I saw POISE and put that in. For I knew when I stepped outside, I’d meet with COMPETITION.
DESIRE and SACRIFICE were plentiful. The last things on the shelf, SPORTSMANSHIP was hanging near, so I just helped myself.
Then I asked God, ‘Now how much for these items in my bin?’
HE smiled and said, ‘just use them to help you WIN.’
Every time I face a CHALLENGE, now I know I’ll have everything I need, to OVERCOME ADVERSITY, and ensure that I SUCCEED!!!!



Everyone Has A Story!

19 May

A few Saturday mornings ago…I was sitting at my computer trying hard to ignore a very happy , a very talkative workman at my house.

…I heard him talking which is certainly not unusual for him. Though it seemed like a one-side conversation and with all this technology these days, people seem to be doing that. I was so hoping he was talking on the phone.  I was trying hard not to look in his direction and kept very silent.


Ignoring him, not looking in his direction and staying silent was not working for me that day.  He (Michael) kept talking,  I soon realized, Michael, had a story to tell.

Still seated at my computer, I looked over at Michael now he was on all fours, laying a piece of canvas down on the floor.

The chatter in my brain was busy at work while looking at Michael. The inner voice kept saying, why is he bothering with the canvas? My house looks like a bomb exploded. I have boxes stacked to the ceiling, beds striped and leaning against bedroom walls.  Kitchen cabinets empty, furniture bubbled wrapped and staged in the front of the house…In other words, a huge pile of  a hot mess!

Trust me on this one, a little more dirt tracked in my house from the bottoms of someone’s shoes was not going to be noticed.

I’m sure you’ve lived this visual at least once in your life.


Michael still on his hands and knees, half in and half out of the house, now had my full attention He was telling me how he once had dogs like mine and how they reminded him of a terrible tragedy in his life.

In 2002 his whole family died in a house fire, his wife (high school sweetheart), a son (4 1/2) and a daughter (3 1/2).

I said nothing, he had a story to tell…

He was away on a boys hunting trip for just a few days. His wife had decided she and the kids would stay with her parents at their home (thinking life would be a little easier). The trip was a success and Michael was returning home but had a later departure than originally planned. He talked with his family on the drive home. A snow storm was moving in and Michael needed to get up very early the next morning to plow driveways (his second business). So the decision was made his family would stay at his in-laws for one more night. His son wanted him to pick him up on his way home but Michael said, “No, stay with mommy, I have to get up very early to plow driveways in the morning.”

A few hours later…He received the call.

Apparently, everyone had at one point made it outside but they went back in the house not knowing everyone had made it out.

His son was found dead crouched down between the toilet and the sink.

His daughter dead under her bed and his wife in the bathroom with her son.

They all died of smoke inhalation.

What Michael was told, when the bathroom  window was opened, it created a backdraft, making the whole house go up in minutes.

The house fire was started by his son who had found his grandmothers cigarette lighter.

My only question to Michael, how, how do you move on from such an awful, painful tragedy?

“Well” he said,

“I threw myself in to my dogs and after a little over a year, I made a decision, I could either stay in pain and in darkness hating God or fill my life with hope, happiness and love.”

He eventually met a wonderful woman who already had a couple of daughters, they married and had two more daughters.

Michael said, “I work long hard days with very little time off for one reason, to provide everything for my four children and for my wife’… “I am filled with gratitude” Michael said, to be able to do what I do for them. Their happiness is my happiness!

I said, Michael, you are a true inspiration regarding living life….My mother would say, “Life is for the living.” And he is certainly living those words.

Michael’s story has forever change my life, strengthening my belief in the human spirit. The desire for love, happiness and joy is far stronger than hate, misery and darkness !

I am filled with gratitude that a happy man, who was on his hands and knees, laying out canvas to protect my already dirty floors, didn’t allow my silence, to silence his story!

God works in mysterious ways!






Victim No Longer!

24 Feb

About a month ago my husband had a full hip replacement and after 3 days in the hospital I drove him home on a brutal Cleveland winter day. Our home immediately transformed into a nursing home with prescription bottles decorating counters and rooms with rechargeable air pumps for his legs (to prevent blood clots) that sucked air in and out all day and ALL NIGHT …that he needed to wear all day and ALL NIGHT (bless his heart).  Along with other medical equipment to aid in his comfort and recovery.


…As the recovery (thankfully) has progressed with amazing speed (bless his heart)…

Our house has now been transformed into his office. With conference calls, deliveries and loud out bursts of “damn it”  because of a lost internet connection for a moment (bless his heart).


This morning as he moved from one room to the other with purpose and questions/requests for me (bless his heart), I was doing my best impression of I can’t hear you because what I’m watching (on television) is so interesting I can’t possibly turn my head and pay attention…Admittedly not being the best wife I could possibly be!


…As you know from previous post of mine, I truly believe God works in misteriest ways.

…So here we go…Or rather “hear” (tee hee) we go!

The television happened to have The View on with Gabrielle Union as a guest, she plays Mary Jane in “Being Mary Jane.” A truly stunning well spoken woman with a tremendous amount of love and energy…in her real life; marrying a man with three sons (a soon to-be blended family as she said).


…What truly did end up catching my attention (I know, took me a long time to get here) Ms. Union spoke about the turning point in her life when she realized she no longer wanted to be a victim (raped at gun point at 19 yrs. old) and instead wanted to be a survivor! Ms Union said, you get all the attention and excuses you thought you’ve always wanted when you were younger but the problem she realized was, it was for something negative. People were making excuses for her to be unhappy, making it easy for her not to reach her goals. Staying a victim prevents moving into a productive, happy, wonderful and loving life.

I asked my sister once, what is the difference between being supportive and being enabler? She responded with one word…”time.” I truly think she was spot on. To treat someone (over too much time) as a victim allows/enables them to keep victimizing themselves over and over again.


…On a positive note…My husband is going back to work today (bless his heart)!


God’s Valentines!

16 Feb

Thing One and Thing Two’s mother received an email from Thing Two’s Pre-School teacher. Being in the true spirit (giving) of February 14, she forwarded it on to me, thank you my dear friend (it made me so happy).

Not only do I love what is being taught in her son’s class…


…I also love God’s Valentines to us ALL!

I hope the photos make you as happy as it made me! From my heart to yours!














“All you need is love….”

Cold and Homeless!

31 Jan

About two weeks ago I sat in my car in front of a lovely restaurant in town waiting for my “take-out” dinner. 

Just a second I need to back-up even further…

My husband was out of town and I decided I wanted an early dinner from this lovely restaurant that I enjoy going to. I took it even a step further, (lazier) and thought if there wasn’t a parking place available right in front of the restaurant I will keep driving because I do not even feel like walking a little for my dinner tonight…Far too cold and windy!

Well, lord and behold a fine parking space right in front of my restaurant. Yippee, I thought, God is taking such good care of me, far too cold to be out and about!

I called in my order from my cell phone, still not needing to brave the elements as my ass sat in my warm car (music playing). I was told it would be about 15 minutes. I sang “no problem.” 

I played words with friends, talked with friends and then decided to look at all my amazing stocks on an app I downloaded several weeks before. I was adding up all the plus columns, thinking such happy thoughts, quite proud of myself for buying more shares of twitter before it hit 50… When a homeless man knocks on my window. I froze, trust me not because of the cold.

I hear “I’m not going to rob you, I just need a little money for a hot meal and to get to the men’s homeless shelter for tonight”. His lips and face were about three if not four different shades of color ranging from light to dark. He didn’t have gloves or a hat and his coat was certainly nothing I would have considered warm enough for such a winter night. I lowered my window a little and he continued, “I’m not going to buy drugs, I just need a hot meal and to get to the men’s shelter for a bed tonight”. 

I grabbed my purse, pulled out my wallet and handed him $20…By his reaction you would have thought I just gave him the keys to heaven.


…Then it occurred to me, God wasn’t taking care of me on that cold night, he was taking care of the homeless man…

Do I know for sure drugs were not bought that night, no! But I do know everyone comes into our life for a reason and God works in very mysterious ways!


“The Holy Spirit Is In My Pocket”

26 Jan

“Does anyone want the Holy Spirit because it’s in my pocket” I hear from the backseat….


“I have the Holy Spirit in my pocket, does anyone want it?” 

I turn my head back to look at my three grown children in the backseat of our car as we are pulling out of the Church’s parking lot.

and SHE

…pulls out the communion host (wafer) from her front pocket.

Her brother yells…”I can’t believe it, I can’t believe it”…”What are you crazy?” “Why didn’t you just put it in your mouth? I’ve never known anyone to do this…This is sacrilegist!” 

SHE says…

…”Welll it’s flu season and the priest had it in his hands and I didn’t want to get sick.

 Trying so hard not to laugh at everyone and everything in the backseat while at the exact same time trying really hard not to offend God on Christmas Eve…I reach back extending my hand to accept the backseat communion offering and place it respectfully in my mouth. 

….AND after days of smiling and a lot of laughter well into January, it occurred to me, SHE did have the Holy Spirit in her pocket! 

Thanksgiving for all answered prayers!


Lance Armstrong – No Surprises!

22 Jan
Dear Readers,

Last Sunday afternoon I was reading one of my favorite blogs Candid Observation and she had written a posting on Lance Armstrong regarding his come to Jesus moment with Oprah.
The title of her posting…And she writes…  
“What Does Remorse Look Like?”
“I have always been interested in what real remorse looks like to those who are looking for it. If a person cries, in court or any other venue, those who are ready to pick at a bleeding sore will often say that the tears are phony, orchestrated in order to garner sympathy.”
My thoughts,
I have no idea what remorse looks like, I certainly know how it feels.  But with that said, I do believe there are some people unable to be remorseful no matter what they say or look like like. Lance Armstrong’s arrogance and his grand sense of entitlement hurt a lot of people. Lance thought he was bigger and better than anyone coupled with a mission to destroy anyone who got in his way if they didn’t fold like a deck of cards to every demand. He never looked inward to his behavior only outwards to others, never self-correcting…. Lance tried to ruin the lives of fellow teammates and their families with his bullying, intimidation and suing…for their sin of being truthful, honest and self-correcting. His actions went beyond one or two remorseful indiscretions. He was an evil bully on two wheels and now he is just evil on two legs….I bet Cheryl Crow is counting her lucky stars he dumped her, painful at the time but God works in mysterious ways!
Personally, I do not care or will I ever care if he is remorseful that is between him and his God. But I do believe in Karma….enough said!
Please read another great posting on this subject…
Asklotta and staff will MIND YOUR BUSINESS today wondering if evil is born or created?
Again it has been my pleasure to tell you what to do and what NOT to do!
Kindest regards,
President and CEO

What Ever I Want, What Ever You Want!

2 Jan
Dear Readers,

Good morning! 
We are several hours into the New Year and I have been reading well wishes from friends for 2013…
Happy New Year! Wishing you lots of love and fun … and some peace in 2013! xxoo

Happy New Year! Wishing you all the best 2013 can bring

See you in 2013!

Happy Happy New Year!! xo
Wishing all of you lots of love and peace this New Year!
AND it hit me, the fireworks went off in my head (finally)…it is all possible.. 2013 can be exactly what I want, it can be exactly what you want…peace, love, fun, all the best. It doesn’t have to be left up to chance or just a pie in the sky dream.
Let me back-up for a little bit..
Everything and anything worth having takes hard work! (Everyday I see people applying this philosophy in the gym) 
It’s all possible (yes) not because of what the world/family/friends/strangers are finally doing or finally not doing… it is what YOU are finally doing and not doing (Lindseth is right).
To quote Troy from aslongasimsinging.wordpress.com…”I chose the playlist in my head.” Yes, you are the one who choses what plays between your ears!
I love putting great ideas and thoughts into tangible action. So with that said, below are four steps to live the life you so desire, the life your friends and family want for you… love, peace and happiness!
Now lets skip straight to the starting line, because right now is always a great time to begin!
Action Plan:
1 – Everyday say the mantra…NO ONE OWES ME ANYTHING! In fact say it three times a day!
2 – Everyday say three things you are appreciative of 
3 – Everyday say “I forgive (fill in the blank)” Does not matter if that person has asked for your forgiveness or even wants it….just give it…
4 – Everyday say “I surrender all my concerns to God!”
If you really work these four steps (hard) your desired 2013 will happen… 
Asklotta and staff will MIND YOUR BUSINESS today working my action/happiness plan!
Again, it has been my pleasure to tell you what to do and what NOT to do!
Kindest regards,
President and CEO

Raise Your Glass…

31 Dec
Dear Readers,

Raise your glass to….
To your past love of your life….to someday having another love of your life
To your past commitments …to someday knowing when to say good by
To your past happiness…to someday having such happiness again
To your past health….to someday having your health again
To your past success….to someday realizing your best has yet to happen
To your past friendships….to someday having friends you have yet to meet
To your past distractions of being lost….to someday being silent and finding your way
To your past mistakes…to someday learning from your mistakes
To your past struggles…to someday being thankful for those struggles
To your past fears….to someday being fearless
To your past days of darkness…to someday dancing in the light of day
To your past limitations…to someday turning them into strengths
To your past need for help…to someday finding your voice to speak the words H E L P
To your past lack of faith…to someday finding your faith in GOD 
To your past of being thankless…to someday being filled with appreciation 
Raise Your Glass…
To your past (good, bad or indifferent)… to someday remembering to stay in the present!
Raise your glass… raise it high… to HOPE!
Dan Fogelberg – Same Old Lang Syne
Asklotta and staff will MIND YOUR BUSINESS today with my glass raised high above my head (2013)…high up to the heavens (2013)…. for Hope (2013)… Hope for all in 2013…
Happy Hopeful New Year!
Again, it has been my pleasure to tell you what to do and what NOT to do in 2012!
Kindest regards,
President and CEO
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