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A New Years Thought

8 Jan

Inhaling…exhaling…Inhaling…exhaling….arms swinging back and forth….music buds in ears, iPod tucked in front pocket of yoga pants, a huge smile…Thats me at 6:30 AM

And just as routine as my workouts are….

….So is Ken walking up to me with his charming and happy salutations!….After wishing him a Happy New Years, and without skipping a beat in between gasping for breath I say; lets talk un-PC of course.

Let me back up a little….

Ken is one of my wonderful gym friends (first names only) that greets me with smiles and happy/inspirational thoughts early early mornings. He is a 75 year old 6′ 1″ African American man who grew up with a single mother in the Bronx (New York City). A gang leader as a teen who is now an upstanding father/grandfather, who by the way, still works (part-time) and volunteers in places that need him the most.

Ken and I were talking about kids and guns when he said something very powerful…”When I was younger we fought, we did a lot of fighting but there weren’t any guns and I’m sure happy about that. Because I would have killed someone who ended up to be my best friend. He just died a year ago and I still miss him everyday. Kids now, could be killing their future best friend.”

He went off to his piece of equipment (bike) and I continued to run on my piece of equipment (elliptical)…As always, getting nowhere fast!….Enough said.

What Do You See?

27 Aug

I recently purchased Kangoo Runners and posted this picture on my Facebook page.

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The comments ranged from (please see below), “you are going to kill yourself to please video!” Basically saying when you do kill yourself, I want to laugh my ass off!

“Just fill out the hospital admission form ahead of time.”

You’re going to kill yourself, Are you serious?

“I’m not sure…those look dangerous!”

“please video tape this” – My very funny sister and a very funny friend of my daughter’s left this comment

And…

…After I stopped laughing, it hit me like a two by four across the face….As these moments always do.

Pure and good  admission of honesty right here folks…

…I have to admit, I NEVER once saw the Kangoo Runners as dangerous, thought NEVER popped into my head…Just a whole lot of FUN!

Is there something wrong with me?

OR???

Is there something right with me?

“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” – Nelson Mandela

So far I have been correct. I have had a blast running in them! A great joyful workout completely void of fear!

What do you see?

Danger or fun…As always, it’s your decision!

BFF?

23 Jul

With all the attention these past few days  to the 25th anniversary of the movie “When Harry Met Sally”, staring Billie Crystal and Meg Ryan…My thoughts wonder towards relationships and the movie’s theme. Can a man and a woman really be friends?

“When Harry Met Sally”

“Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I’m saying is – and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form – is that men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That’s not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don’t.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don’t.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I’m having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I’m saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you’re saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail ’em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don’t want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn’t matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we’re not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That’s too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.”
― Nora Ephron, When Harry Met Sally

 

So given my stir it up personality, needing to take it to the next level…

The question before you is:

….Can a hetersexual married woman be friends with a hetersexual man that is not her husband?

AND…

…Can a hetersexual woman be friends with another woman’s husband? And not with his wife?

I suppose the quick and edging answer is: yes (friendships have no boundaries)….But is that really true, are friendships really without boundaries or expectations?

Can you meet a married man and fall into a causal gender-neutral friendship? Or what what about the kind of friendships that had started years ago during your single years?  Can you remain close friends regardless of yours or his marital status?

I say, martial status changes the game and hence the rules to play by. AND only stupid girls with huge ego’s think they can have a friendship with someone else’s husband….End of game!

OR…Has the game just begun?

 

To Be Right?? OR To Be Kind??

9 Jun

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Today, you decide???

Signs Accentuate The Obvious, by Martine Powers Globe Staff – The Boston Globe/May 10

12 May

I received this article from my dear friend (Nancy) who lives in Boston. She saw my post on May 5 title “I have A Question”.

Love it!

Thank you so much Nancy! And Happy Belated Mother’s Day!

So HAPPY Boston is taking action, for everyone’s safety!

 

‘Changing lanes? Use yah blinkah.’
STATE DEPARTMENT OF TRANSPORTATION, talking to drivers in a Boston accent

When the Massachusetts Department of Transportation chose to warn drivers about the need to signal before changing lanes, they opted for a familiar patois: the Boston accent.
New messages appeared Friday morning on the state’s electronic highway signs, reading “Changing lanes? Use yah blinkah.”
The electronic message, which will be on display through the weekend, prompted an eruption of reactions, ranging from delight to horror, on social media as motorists spotted the messages during the morning commute.
“An actual sign entering Boston reads: ‘Changing lanes? Use yah blinkah.’ I kid you not,” wrote one Twitter user. “Wicked clevah!” wrote another.
Some expressed dismay: “I’m saddened that this is real.”
Highway Administrator Frank DePaola said he was pleased with the reactions to the effort to liven up the highway signs by appealing to Bostonians in their native dialect.
“Sometimes it becomes a little bit of white noise because we just repeat [the messages], so we thought we’d change them up a little bit,” DePaola said. “By changing the message and maybe using that creative spelling, we thought we’d get people’s attention and get people talking about it.”
He was a little taken aback by some of those positive expressions appearing with mages on social media.
“We don’t encourage the taking-a-picture part,” he said. “. . . I hope they’re doing all the tweets after they get to their destination, when they’re sitting at their desks.”
There may be more where that came from. DePaola said the success of the “Pahk Yah Cah in Hahvahd Yahd” -esque one-liner leads him to believe more may come in the future.
“I’m thinking maybe we end up soliciting the public, get some suggestions from the public on that . . . to try to come up with some uniquely crafted messages,” DePaola said.
The “Use Yah Blinkah” message was prompted by a complaint submitted to Mass DOT’s online contact form by a Massachussets resident who identified himself as James and requested that the transportation agency try to discourage drivers from changing lanes willy nilly.
“Occasionally, can the [Department of ] Transportation set up their sign to remind motorists to use their directional signals when changing lanes or moving to an exit ramp?” James wrote. “For safety sake and courtesy, it would be great if people on our streets and highways would use their signals when changing lanes. I’m not sure if it is thoughtlessness or ignorance, or indifference.”
Sara Lavoie, Mass DOT spokeswoman, said the agency saw the e-mail suggestion and decided to give it a try and have fun at the same time.
So far this year, police departments across the state have given out 1,083 tickets for failure to signal before changing lanes. Last year, police gave out 4,967 tickets for that violation, and 4,359 in 2012.

Games and Rules!

4 Mar

As I walked into my neighbors home, Thing Two (age 4) was in his mother’s arms completely relaxed. His breathing and hers had become one. Together their chests rising and falling, slowly inhaling with long slow exhales. Calm was in the room as if it was something I could touch. I even noticed my breathing had become slower with longer calming breaths  .

In Thing Two’s hand was a tiny toy he was clinging to, his reassurance that his brother (Thing One) wasn’t going to completely get exactly everything he wanted (or so he thought).  I was witnessing the calm after the storm. Apparently several minutes (thankfully) before my arrival the outburst was set into motion by Thing One’s thoughts and ideas about how a game should be played….I’m not positive on all the details but I think it had something to do with, everyone has to play by my rules or else kind of a game!

Well anyway….

As I looked over at Thing One looking very angelic and playing so peacefully on the floor. He gave the appearance  that he was totally unaware of the how and why of Thing Two’s unnerving, I couldn’t help it, I started to laugh (it really was hilarious). All of a sudden Thing Two said, it’s too noisy in the room.  His mother said with a smile and a giggle , funny how this works…people never seem to mind the volume of their own noise (screaming) but other people’s noise is unsettling.”

And…

…As you know from my past post, I truly believe God works in mysteries ways!

God was winking at me, and now getting my full attention.

This whole scene reminded me of a quote from the Dalai Lama that I had once read…”You can not lose what you do not cling to.”

God gave me that moment in time, to understand that true peace, is in, the letting go.

Sadly for many adults, maturing (respecting others) is far too difficult and letting go seems so terribly unfair.

AND…Let me reassure you, because of great parenting, Thing One and Thing Two are growing taller, stronger and maturing perfectly!

God’s Valentines!

16 Feb

Thing One and Thing Two’s mother received an email from Thing Two’s Pre-School teacher. Being in the true spirit (giving) of February 14, she forwarded it on to me, thank you my dear friend (it made me so happy).

Not only do I love what is being taught in her son’s class…

But….

…I also love God’s Valentines to us ALL!

I hope the photos make you as happy as it made me! From my heart to yours!

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“All you need is love….”

Drunk Posting!

3 Feb

Who out there is getting on Facebook at 1:00 in the morning after a few adult beverages and posting pictures of friends? Well, STOP IT NOW!

You are very close to (being blocked on Facebook) and an intervention that will land you a 30 day stay at The Betty Ford Clinic.

My suggestion if you are…

hurt

angry

unhappy

feeling nostalgic or have had at least one adult beverage…

…Step away from your technology!

Before you damage yourself and friendships (present and future)

It’s too damaging and you cannot un-ring a bell. No matter how much your rational (in the moment) lucid and/or sober self regrets!

Of course, this is just a suggestion for a kinder and more peaceful existence!

Again as always, it is your decision!

 

 

 

 

 

The Good Old Days!

20 Sep

Does anyone miss the good ol’ days?

For me I think it’s entertaining…

When was the last time you entertained friends much-less in your home? Don’t worry I’m not judging, I completely understand.

It use to be so so soooo easy!

You made a few phone calls, they said yes, they arrived at the designated time, some drinks, some dinner which included chicken or maybe a hamburger (with bun) plus carbohydrates, some sugar delicious dessert and voila everyone had fun including the hosts!

NOW entertaining is a different beast. I’m starting to twitch just thinking about it.

I don’t know what to serve anymore that doesn’t offend someone!

Let me explain…

Guests arrive, drinks are served…Not so fast…hold it right there. It use to be Beer, Wine or a Coca Cola…

NOWWWW….

Beer, Wine #white & red, and full bar for those who have sleepless white wine nights and for those others with a sensitivity to the tannins in red. Along with juices, sodas, sport drinks, tonics, with and without sugar. Plus different flavored waters with and without bubbles.

No plastic cups, plates or paper napkins for the environmentally green conscious guests

AND I ask you what is left to serve with all the dietary restrictions/requirements friends now have; gluten intolerant, vegans, range-free, hormone-free, organic, vegetarian, red meat but no lamb, no mercury laden fish, Carbo-free, only locally grown vegetables, no white flour products, no tomato base sauce and God knows what allergies that needs some dancing around!

Cell phones! Pass the cell phone please! I need to snapchat/facebook us having fun!

Desserts , yes dessets I remember them fondly. Use to be the easiest part of the meal…Think again!

Sorry for the reality check, dessert is now something one enjoyed in the good old days…Some guests view sugar as poison and as if it’s some master plan to kill off their pancreas while sending them into heroin high addiction. Then there are some that use dessert as the perfect moment to shame others, shinning a bright light so to speak on their weakness to a healthy lifestyle. While the very thin seem to enjoy it with their fingers and politely excuse themselves to throw-up!

The good old days, what ever happened to the good old days of just plain eating?

Enjoy your weekend entertaining and Stay safe!

Monday’s Quick Addition!

5 Aug

Hi all,

It’s the first Monday in August and life is terrific! Why terrific you wonder?

1) No one I’m related to has been arrested

2) The plumbing in my house is still working

3) Thing 1 and Thing 2 had the most wonderful time celebrating Thing 2’s fourth birthday in their back-yard with lots of friends, family, love and a huge ice cream truck!

4) Still plenty of summer left to enjoy with friends and family!

5) Realizing all my prayers have been answered….time to rejoice and dance!…Thanksgiving for prayers answered!!!!

I truly am the kind of person that is grateful and appreciative for everything I have and not miserable for what I don’t have…My brilliant and beautiful Mother taught me that along with “surround yourself with friends that are filled with appreciation”… My Mother gave me the most wonderful gift; the gift of happiness for the rest of my life….And YES I did have a wonderful, loving and brilliant Mother in the world, just in case you were wondering!

Sooooo…..

If you need a little help “scooping” out some happiness today, here’s a little Math Equation that might bring an “answer.”

…If A  is to B, then what is C?

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C = Coffee, Coffee Buzz, Buzz, Buzz!

If your summer math is not adding up to something delicious and fun, try changing the equation until the logic makes you smile!

Stay safe!

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