Honesty?

9 Jul

I was thinking about honesty and hmmm, relationships?

Just wondering…

Are the best relationships due to honesty?
Or….
…Are the best relationships due to holding back some of that honesty AND due to, not being honest?

Is full disclosure necessary for a great relationship?
Or…
…Is full disclosure nothing more than a selfish act of unburdening? Or is it a pure and loving act of kindness?
And once honesty is out there, is it fair to have expectations stemming from the honesty?

Maybe…
…Honesty is nothing more than a tool to hurt others in the name of a virtuous act? Or could it be, the necessary tool to enjoying life to the fullest?

Just maybe…
…Honesty is the party that brings the right people together and is what keeps damaging people off your guest list?

Could it be that honesty is not what you WANT, but what you NEED? And just maybe giving honesty is a fair and true loving act that sacrifices one’s  peace, to give to a another in need?

But in the end…

I think honesty is the same as sex in a marriage…You can’t have a great relationship without it…But just because you have it, doesn’t mean you have a great relationship!

 

4 Responses to “Honesty?”

  1. LIZLiz T. July 9, 2014 at 1:45 pm #

    Hi Lotta —

    Great post. I think it’s all in the motive behind the honesty. Is it done in love to nurture a relationship? Or is it done to manipulatively hurt someone? Motives… hmmm. XOXO Liz

    • asklotta July 9, 2014 at 3:03 pm #

      Liz, Once again you are spot on if someone is using the name of honesty to be hurtful and damaging! Using honesty as a weapon! xxoo!

  2. LIZ July 9, 2014 at 1:48 pm #

    Great post, Lotta.

    I think it’s all about the motive behind the honesty. Is it being done in love to nurture a relationship? Or is it being done to manipulatively hurt someone? There’s always a motive in there — so which one will it be??? XO Liz

    • asklotta July 9, 2014 at 5:29 pm #

      This reminds me of my mother’s wise words..”take it from the source.” When it comes from someone with ill motives, stemming from anger, hate and insecurities, I really don’t think it could ever be honesty since they aren’t being honest with themselves.

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