My Two Cents Worth!

29 Oct
Dear Readers,

This topic is a dicey one… 
It was brought to my attention ( regarding a murder in Newark, CA October 3, 2002. I can not say in this moment in time if I had known about it and just forgot or if it didn’t even hit my radar screen at all. But at any rate this is an interesting story. 
This is the most perfect time to quote my brilliant mother, “a piece of paper is never too thin it doesn’t have two sides.” as you will learn.
As I was writing a question kept rising to the surface…In a just and moral society, is it possible to push someone too far emotionally, bullying, humiliation, degradation? If the answer is yes, then in a just and moral society should we hold them accountable for their actions? 
Before rendering an opinion, please wait and indulge me a little as I lay out the facts… 
Gwen Amber Rose Araujo – born Edward Araujo, Jr. “American teenage pre-operative trans woman”
Witness account of the circumstances of Araujo’s death
Araujo, who was undergoing hormone therapy and going by the name of Gwen Amber Rose Araujo at the time,[7][8] met Michael Magidson, Jose Merél, Jaron Nabors, and Jason Cazares in the summer of 2002.[9] She was reported to have engaged in oral sex with Magidson and anal sex with Merél.[10] She allegedly claimed to be menstruating and during sex would push her partners’ hands away from her private area to prevent them from discovering that she had male sex organs.[11] On October 3, 2002, she attended a party at a house rented by Merél and his brother, Paul Merél.[12][13] Also in attendance at the party were Magidson, Jose Merél, Nabors, Cazares, Paul Merél, Paul Merél’s girlfriend Nicole Brown, and Emmanual Merél.
At the party on October 3, 2002 she was discovered, by forced inspection (conducted by Brown[14]), to have male sex organs, following which the men with whom she had sexual relations with became violent. Magidson put Araujo in a chokehold.[15] Later, he punched Araujo in the face and began to choke her, but was pulled off by others.[14] At some point after that, Paul Merél, Emmanuel Merél, and Brown left the house.[15][16] Jose Merél struck Araujo in the head with a can of food and a frying pan.[15][17] Nabors and Cazares left in Magidson’s truck to go to Cazares’s house to get shovels and a pickaxe.[15][18]
When Nabors and Cazares returned, Araujo was still conscious and sitting on the couch.[15] At some point, the assault resumed. Magidson kneed Araujo in the head against the living room wall, rendering her unconscious.[15][19] Cazares kicked Araujo.[19] After this, Araujo was taken to the garage of the home. Nabors testified that Magidson strangled Araujo with a rope and that Cazares struck Araujo with a shovel,[9] but Magidson testified that it was Nabors who strangled Araujo and struck her with the shovel,[20] and Cazares testified that he never struck Araujo and did not see Araujo die.[9] Most accounts have cleaning blood out of the carpet at the time that she was strangled.[citation needed] Araujo was then hog-tied, wrapped in a blanket, and placed in the bed of a pick-up truck. They then drove Araujo’s body four hours away and buried her near the Sierra Nevada mountains.[21] Araujo’s disappearance and murder went unreported for days.[21] It is not clear at what point during this sequence of events Araujo’s death occurred. However, the autopsy showed that she died from strangulation associated with blunt force trauma to the head.[10]
Three defendants testified in this trial — and blamed each other as well as Nabors. On 8 September, the jury announced that it had reached verdicts on two of the three defendants. As Judge Harry Sheppard instructed, the verdicts were kept secret.[26]
On 12 September, after the jury announced that it had deadlocked on the third defendant, the verdicts were announced. The defendant on whom the jury had deadlocked was Cazares. Magidson and Merél were each convicted of second-degree murder,[27] but not convicted of the hate crime enhancement allegations.
Alameda County Assistant District Attorney Chris Lamiero, who represented the prosecution in the case, undermined criminal intent by commenting:
Gwen being transgender was not a provocative act. He’s [sic] who he [sic] was. However, I would not further ignore the reality that Gwen made some decisions in his [sic] relation with these defendants that were impossible to defend. I don’t think most jurors are going to think it’s OK to engage someone in sexual activity knowing they assume you have one sexual anatomy when you don’t.[28]
– Wikipedia
Now here is my two cents…
How I see it…this is not a trans gender hate crime/murder. From where I sit it was an act of humiliation. 


Magidson and Merél were very happy using Gwen Araujo for sex.  But when they found out they were the ones being duped and being used by Gwen, life turned into a hot mess in record speed. Magidson and Merel were humiliated, their masculinity challenged, turning a situation from a testosterone pleasure zone to a testosterone wild rage… ending with an awful murder. 
I am not supporting or even insinuating Magidson and Merél’s awful disguising violent actions that directly lead to Gwen’s death were OK.

But I am also not supporting Gwen actions of deception and lies to Magidson and Merél for sex as either OK or acceptable. 


I feel the exact same way if someone engaged in sex knowing they were HIV positive and said nothing before hand to their partner. One could almost predict an awful outcome from these actions…

I feel it is NEVER OK or justified to use people much less for one’s self-gradification that would surely leave one disgraced and humiliated regardless of gender or sexual orientation!
But with that said…

 “two wrongs do not make a right” 
But the question still begs…in a moral and just society is it possible to push people too far leaving them free of responsibly for their actions?
For I am positive if Gwen gave full disclosure Magidson and Merél she would be alive today and hence why I believe this was not a hate crime. 
Asklotta and staff will MIND YOUR BUSINESS today reminding you kindness, truth and respect is the only road to travel…for everyone’s safety!
Again, it has been my pleasure to tell you what to do and what NOT to do!
Kindest regards,
President and CEO

8 Responses to “My Two Cents Worth!”

  1. Patrick Weseman October 29, 2012 at 1:44 pm #

    I remember this well living in the Bay Area when this happened. I did not know any of the parties involved but have always thought the case was about people’s emotions got too much of them and pushed them over the edge.

    The local newspaper played this case up big and sold a lot of newspapers.

    I also remember that the next August we had to attend “Transgender training” because of this case and got hooted down when I asked about Gwen’s lies and deception.

    • asklotta October 29, 2012 at 10:33 pm #

      Thank you Patrick! This did not seem like a hate crime to me. After someone has lied, misrepresented themselves in order to violate someone else sexual at what point is the victim held not responsible. I think the education is a good thing for all but also should include education for trans gender’s understanding full disclosure is important before becoming intimate….respect for all no matter who you are!

  2. legionwriter October 30, 2012 at 4:13 am #

    What a messed up world

  3. t October 30, 2012 at 4:17 pm #

    “in a moral and just society is it possible to push people too far leaving them free of responsibly for their actions?” In a word, no.

    That being said, if we hope to someday become a moral and just society, we need to all work together to stop the pushing.

    • asklotta October 30, 2012 at 4:38 pm #

      Spot on and perfectly stated! We are always responsible for our actions but what I am reading and seeing these days, the relentless pushing is none stop and I am beginning to think humans/people have created a society that makes it impossible to live in.

      • t October 30, 2012 at 4:43 pm #

        Not only have we created it, we’ve embraced it. The meek may very well someday inherit the earth, but will they even want it by the time the rest of us are done with it?

      • asklotta October 30, 2012 at 9:28 pm #

        I’ve had a spiritual day t…proof of Jesus and heaven. My post for tomorrow is exactly what we are talking about. I think in the name of advancement we are destroying all that is good and worthy.

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