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Bullying!

23 Oct
Dear Readers,
 
I have just returned home from a delicious lunch and a presentation on Bullying at one of Cleveland’s very beautiful private schools. I was invited to join other parents, faculty and educators from around the Cleveland area to listen and participate in a discussion regarding Bullying.
 
Cynthia Lowen (featured speaker) Educating The Heart: A Moral Compass. 
 
Ms. Lowen is the co-filmmaker of “Bully,” a feature documentary following a “year in the life” of America’s bullying crisis. She is also an award-winning writer and winner of the prestigious Discovery Prize. Ms. Lowen co-authored “The Essential Guide to Bullying: Prevention and Intervention,” published this month. Together with Lee Hirsch, the director of “Bully,” she also co-edited “BULLY: An Action Plan for Teachers and Parents to Combat the Bullying Crisis,” published September 25.
 
Ms. Lowen talked and showed clips from her documentary. There were times it was so very painful to watch her documentary – an eleven year old boy getting bullied that I literally had to turn my head. His school did nothing (assistant principal), I will never understand how an adult, an educator could do nothing.  Listening to the boy’s mother who was filled with pain and frustration, trying with the best of her ability to protect her son was overwhelming. It was so hard for the mother to understand why her son had put up with the Bullying for so long without saying a word.
 
But the Bullying did not just stop with this one sweet boy in Ms. Lowen documentary. Cyber bullying I think might be even worse on some level because many times the victum thinks they are communicating with someone (a friend) that ends up not (a friend) who they thought, everything turns ugly at the speed of sound…
 
Children are taking their own life because of the pain and humiliation brought on by Bullying…it truly has become an epidemic in America and we have to do something AND we need to do something NOW!
 
Ms. Lowen explained some of the many reasons why people do not seek help from Bullying
 
1) Afraid their life would be even worse if they got help
2) Fired from their job
3) Afraid the solution still will not stop the Bullying
4) The Bully has really made them feel worthless and not worthy of kind behavior
5) Shameful
6) Maybe they should just suck it up, it might not be as bad as they think
 
Our culture Ms. Lowen said has turned very aggressive with denigration as a form of entertainment… e.g. Simon Cowell on American Idol. His/the show’s popularity grew the nastier Simon became. T. V. commercials usual makes a fool out of someone and the Internet used as a tool to deliver blind punches to someone else’s existence.
 
Dealing with Bullying is not an easy task and should not be done alone….but hopefully with more and more awareness and education there will be more people willing to UniteStand upBe Counted, stopping the insanity and the dysfunction of Bullying.
 
A couple of tips that might serve to be helpful:
 
1 – Meet with the school and make sure you know what kind of a resolution you want. If the bullying is happening on your child’s bus, ask for them to be removed. Ask for those children to be suspended from school. Request counseling for the bullies.
 
2 – Document your meeting. Who you met with, the day and time and the resolution. Send a copy to the school. the board of education and/or your school board.
 
3 – Bullying phone messages, emails, text etc., keep, show others and use in documentation.
 
4 – If the Bullying continues go to the police with all of your documentation. 
 
Many times when meeting with teachers/principals/bosses/police all that gets communicated is your pain. Make sure you know what you want, ask for it and make sure you get it.
 
If the truth be told, Bullies always pick on those who are superior to them. For it is far easier for a bully to knock down others than it is to work hard to improve themselves into worth while human beings owning up to their faults, insecurities and choices.  But I will say it again…UniteStand UpBe Counted and join the masses against Bullying! There is strength in numbers!
 
Asklotta and staff will MIND YOUR BUSINESS today reminding everyone to be kind to all for your actions have consequences!
 
 Again, it has been my pleasure to tell you what to do and what NOT to do!
 
Kindest regards,
 
Asklotta
 
President and CEO
 
CBCorp 
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2 Responses to “Bullying!”

  1. t October 24, 2012 at 1:38 pm #

    And amen.

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