“The Buddymoon”

12 Jul
Dear Readers,
Sunday, July 8 The New York Times “Three’s No Longer a Crowd. For Newlyweds on a ‘Buddymoon'” by Alyson Krueger
The “Buddymoon” Yes you read it correctly, the “Buddymoon is becoming more and more popular with newlyweds.  And please do not mistake it for a Honeymoon.  The buddymoon is when parents, relatives and/or friends join the newlyweds on their honeymoon. 
OK call me crazy but is it not somewhat defeating the purpose of a honeymoon (time alone.)  When newlyweds go off (just the two of them) and enjoy some time together, some alone time with no distractions while they both adjust to their new titles of Mr. and Mrs. Some would say, much needed time after an exhausting wedding and before embarking on the responsible and grown-up world of marriage (mortgage, bills and children.) Now don’t get me wrong, I think it’s great to spend a day or two with “out of town” family and friends after the wedding in a more relaxed atmosphere before going off on a honeymoon. But I think there is already a problem in a marriage when just after you say I do but yet you cannot forsake your family and friends (drinking buddies) for 5 or 6 days….Keep reading, it does gets worse!
The article goes on,
“We were just thrilled, said Ms. McDonnell’s older sister, Amy Hiley, It was like, oh, yeah, I get to spend the whole next week with her rather than them going away and having that time to themselves.”
“Francez Burbelo and Tomas Nazarro who are both 23 and were married in Isabela, P.R. brought another couple who were friends of theirs on their European honeymoon. Ms. Burbelo states “When you invite people to your wedding, you want them to be witnesses, so when you invite them on your honeymoon, it’s the same thing. You want them to be witnesses to how great of a trip you had.”
…Dear God please stop me from beating my head against the wall, it seems as if the I do’s to love, honor and forsake all others in sickness and in health have taken a back seat (I guess) to the really important part of a wedding…the gross ostentatious display of money!
W. Bradford Wilcox a sociologist said “he was not aware of any statistics on buddymoons, but that the idea made sense in light of changes in sexual mores. Today, when about 65 percent of couples cohabitate prior to marriage, the honeymoon is less likely to be a major turning point in their relationship.”
Mr. Grant, 31 explains bringing along the right people is crucial “you want to have an experience with people as long as they respect that it is the honeymoon.” “He added that he and his wife did have some time to themselves, Ms. Grant said that she felt a little guilty about ignoring the others, even for those brief periods, but that they understood. As for the rest of the time, we had our drinking buddies with us, she said. It truly was the best of both worlds.”
I am about to do something I just hate, state the obvious. The self-absorbed, immature and clueless are living their lives like a stupid reality T.V. show. And the blurring of lines to the completely void of  any lines will not serve these couples well in the future.
Asklotta and Staff will MIND YOUR BUSINESS today with the gratitude that it was just my husband and me on our honeymoon (I had my dreamy husband all to myself!) and did not have to share him on a buddymoon with our seven children, his parents and all of our combined siblings, even though I adore them all but definitely would never want to honeymoon with any of them!
Again, it has been my pleasure to tell you what to do and what NOT to do!
Kindest regards,
President and CEO

2 Responses to ““The Buddymoon””

  1. nancy July 12, 2012 at 5:43 pm #

    Honeymoons were invented so newlyweds could finally get away from all the craziness and stress of planning and executing a wedding and spend time alone, one-on-one. Cell phones should be left in the hotel room. Oh, but wait, you can’t do that because you need to constantly send pics via instagram, twitter, Facebook, Flickr and Pinterest. Social media allows honeymooners to take their friends along with them — with up to the minute updates and photos, which is obnoxious in itself! Buddymoons are more like buffoon moons.

    • asklotta July 12, 2012 at 8:40 pm #

      hahaha so true, so true! with my luck I not only will pay for the bridal showers, brides luncheon, rehearsal dinner, the wedding and now the honeymoon for 30 of their nearest and dearest!

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