Defining Ourselves!

17 Jun
Dear Readers,
Woody Allen – “We define ourselves by the choices we make” AND ” With the lack of morality comes rationality”
Helen Keller – “My friends make the stories of my life” 
Winston Churchill – “If we open a quarrel between the past and the present, we shall find that we have lost the future”
George Bernard Shaw – “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” 
Dalai Lama – “Noticing a single shortcoming in ourselves is far more useful than seeing a thousand in someone else. When it is our own: we can correct it.”
The question now begs, 
How would you define yourself?
What stories would your friends make of your life?  
Do you waste time quarreling, losing the future? 
What life have you created for yourself?
Do you rationalize your bad behavior? 
Do you change your life stories to fit your present?
Do you think you would enjoy hearing what people say or what they would write about you?
I once overheard a very successful and well-respected businessman talking about my father, He said…. “No one could say a bad word about Joe, no matter what side of the aisle you sat, Joe always treated everyone honestly, fairly and honored his commitments”…My father’s friends, family and business associates (and adversaries) told the most wonderful stories of my father’s life! 
My father created a life of honor, respect, hard work and love…never losing his wonderful sense of humor! He took care of his family and friends, honoring his wife until his death and even from the grave.  I loved hearing and reading stories of his life, I hung on every word…  (WWII – Silver Star for bravery! Charities he supported), never a disconnect between his words and his behavior.  The last three days of my father’s life, I slept on the floor in his bedroom; more accurately, I lied awake listening to him breath with longer and longer stretches of time between him inhaling and exhaling. This allowed my mother to sleep during the night, assuring her if Dad died, he would have family by his side…just one of the luxuries and privileges of staying out of the hospital. At this point the cancer had already taken half his physical size, doctors tried hard to manage his pain; so difficult, and never successful… Dad looked at me and said “Coraggio” I had heard him say this before but this time he added, “Courage. The word only has meaning when it’s difficult to be courageous” 
Not once did he complain! AND when he laid himself down to die, he was at peace with the world and with himself. Was he perfect, no human can possibly be, but he got up everyday, living his life even to the painful end with dignity, love, honor, and most importantly (coraggio.)  
So yes, I was there by his side as he drew in his last breath, holding his left hand as my mother sat and held his right (his wife of 40 years) Family was with him at 7:49 AM, 21 years ago. As he finally laid in peace, a smile appeared on his face that wasn’t there a minute or two before, and it left me no doubt in my mind, he had found his brother and was being rewarded for the life he had led on earth! In the next bedroom, my three sweet children slept peacefully completely unaware the world had changed, at least for us. It was a privilege and an honor to be with such a great man until the end…. His honor and courageous memory lives on (1918 – 1991)
Today, Asklotta and staff in memory of my father (Happy Father’s Day Dad!) want to MIND YOUR BUSINESS by having you take a moment and take stock of your life.  If you don’t like how your life’s stories are reading…Change your behavior with positive, kind and respectful actions that will change you’re present and future! One person can really make a difference in this world…. make that one person YOU today!
“Unconditional Love”
“A person is a person because of other people” Happy Father’s Day to all!
Again, it has been my pleasure to tell you what to do and what NOT to do!
Kindest regards,
President and CEO

4 Responses to “Defining Ourselves!”

  1. tenacious04 June 17, 2012 at 2:28 pm #

    Tears. You honor your father every day by the way you live your life. He is surely smiling today!

    • asklotta June 17, 2012 at 3:53 pm #

      Thank you my friend…as you are! xoxo

  2. t June 18, 2012 at 1:50 am #

    That was beautiful. Your father is proud of you.

    • asklotta June 18, 2012 at 9:50 am #

      Thank you t! He was a pillar of strength with a sweet heart. I am very lucky for all that he did and all that he didn’t do!

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